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recovery isn't easy, but it's worth it.

this is a blog for inspiration, motivation, and affirmations. it's here to help you on your road to recovery, and mine as well. we all deserve recovery and are worth a life worth living. i hope this blog can bring some recovery-oriented positivity into your daily life to keep you going! enjoy and share :)

ॐ namaste ॐ


get help // suicidal?



in recovery;

my anxiety gets really bad at night and creates my insomnia. it’s pretty uncomfortable tonight and I finally took my Ativan after a couple hours of sitting with this anxiety. the medicine really doesn’t help usually and I still feel pretty anxious. when it goes on this long, my self harm urges come up because that gets rid of the feeling. this is so unsettling.

— 2 days ago with 7 notes
#personal  #ativan  #lorazepam  #anxiety  #panic disorder  #generalized anxiety disorder  #self harm  #self injury  #recovery  #urges  #insomnia 

chasingafterafairytale:

feelthefearanddoitanyway-x:

This is your Sunday evening reminder that you can handle whatever this week throws at you. Even if school, work or general life isn’t okay, you’ll get through it because you are damn strong and amazing.

I needed this.

(via humhalellujah)

— 2 days ago with 64302 notes
#affirmations 

tenderagender:

your self diagnosis is valid. good on u for researching your behavior/symptoms to better understand yourself. you’re just trying to help yourself and find ways to cope w the bad stuff. and i’m proud of u for taking that step<3

(via bongwaterbabe)

— 2 days ago with 1216 notes
demigray:

I don’t see any reason to put off announcing it any longer, so without further ado, this is the “secret” project I was working on. Check out some of the articles:
What is Demisexuality?
Could I Be Demisexual?
Am I Demisexual If…
Coming Out As Demisexual
And more! 
Share it, link to it, use it! Consider this a soft launch, and please provide feedback if you have it.* I want to do a bigger launch for Asexual Awareness Week. 
* Seriously, I would really appreciate ideas for articles, links and other ways to improve the site. 

demigray:

I don’t see any reason to put off announcing it any longer, so without further ado, this is the “secret” project I was working on. Check out some of the articles:

Share it, link to it, use it! Consider this a soft launch, and please provide feedback if you have it.* I want to do a bigger launch for Asexual Awareness Week. 

* Seriously, I would really appreciate ideas for articles, links and other ways to improve the site. 

(via hidden-legacy)

— 4 days ago with 2191 notes
#ref 

just-another-blogging-recoverer:

THE IMPORTANCE OF SCHEDULES

I know I’ve talked briefly about this before, but I thought it deserved a longer post.

WHY?

[THE BENEFITS]

  • gives your time structure
  • no time to lay around & worry, sulk or obsess!
  • helps to limit problem sleeping
  • helps you balance your life activities
  • you won’t be double booked!
  • makes sure you have self-care time
  • helps you figure out priorities
  • gets your studying & classes on track!

Basically, there are dozens of reasons why schedules can be good. It all depends on your issues, or why you want to start.

For me, I was napping all the time and sleeping my life away. Now I only take about one short nap a week, when I really need it. 

If you’re having problems in school, schedules can help you make and stick to a study schedule. If you’re always late and double booking yourself, schedules can help. If you feel you have too much going on in life and you can’t figure out your priorities, schedules can help. If you feel like you have nothing going on and life is pointless, schedules can help!

HOW?

[THE PROCESS]

  1. Set up your medium - Use a piece of paper, grid paper, a preprinted calendar or planner, an Excel spreadsheet, Google Docs—anything. Whatever works for you. Block out days of the week, morning/afternoon/night, hours—be as exact or as approximate as you want. Again, just make sure it makes sense to you.
  2. Block out your have-tos and priorities - Things like sleep, family dinners, work schedules, school, classes, concerts, etc. These are the non-negotiables. 
  3. Determine your categories - What areas do you need to balance? School, home and job? Stressful, peaceful, social? I have two sets: High, medium and low priority, and achievement, connection to others, enjoyment, and self-care. These can be anything, as long as they make sense to you.
  4. Find balance -  Once you’ve figured out what in your life you need to balance, it’s time to balance it. Mark your have-tos and priorities in the category(s) they fit into. I like to do this by color-coding, because I’m a visual person. You can easily use little letters, shapes/symbols, different fonts. (Again, whatever makes sense!) Now look at your schedule. Do you have an overabundance of one thing? Is your schedule overwhelmed by the “stressful” category? Do you have nothing but family and school obligations, and no social engagements?
  5. Fill it in! - Fill in your schedule based on your answers from #4. If you find you have lots of stressful activities, schedule in lots of relaxation between them or in the evenings. Balance out school and family with social engagements and fun. 

Ta-da! You now have the bare bones of a schedule! Play with it until it meets your needs, and you will never regret it!

****

BUT…

[TROUBLESHOOTING]

What medium is right for me?

Look at your life. Are you on the go? Do something that you can a) carry with you or b) access from your mobile phone. If you’re tech-savvy, find an app or a program that syncs to all your devices. If you prefer the feel of paper, use grid paper or a planner.

Experiment til something feels right, works and is convenient!

In my opinion, the best of both worlds is to create the schedule in Excel and then print it out. It gives you a remarkable amount of control—my current schedule is the 3rd picture.

The template I use is here, if you want to give it a test run. (I do alter it a bit)

My schedule is full after step 2.

Whoops! Looks like you’ve got too much goin’ on there. Check out this page for some tips.

I can’t figure out categories.

What do you need to balance? Do you find yourself always forgetting homework for one class and studying all night for another? Maybe classes are one set of categories.

You should have between two and six categories, and perhaps multiple sets. But too many categories will confuse you and derail your schedule!

Here are some sample categories:

  • Achievement/connection to others/enjoyment/self-care
  • Family/school/social/personal
  • High priority/medium priority/low priority
  • High stress/low stress/relaxation
  • Short-term goal work/long-term goal work/enjoyment

How do I achieve balance?

Recognize the opposing “pulls” of your categories, and use them to balance each other out. For example, relaxation “opposes” high stress.

If you color-code your schedule, the colors should reflect a balance. You shouldn’t have all high-stress or all relaxation. It’s more of a science than an art. Just go with your gut and play around a bit. You’ll get the hang of it.

What do I fill in?

Anything!

I tend to fill in “small” things. That is, I’ll fill in television time, crochet time, painting time, and grocery shopping trips. Things I want to do or need to get done eventually.

If you find your schedule has a deficit of things to do, check out my 365 Things post. Do something fun off it. Or try a new hobby. Or call up a friend!

I hate schedules, I prefer spontaneity.

Here’s the thing: you can have a schedule and still be spontaneous. I know, I know, that’s just crazy!

The thing is, schedules help you with priorities and time life management. A schedule can help you make sure that you don’t spend all your time being spontaneous and miss a huge book report, or that you don’t hop on a bus to Chicago the same weekend as your family reunion. It can make sure you’re heading towards your long-term goals and taking care of yourself while still having time to go crazy and unplanned.

What do you do if you want to have a “spontaneous” schedule?

  • When you go to “fill it in”, don’t get specific. Instead of saying “see a movie with Brittany”, you can say “hang out with friends”.
  • Leave your categories as your activities. That is, you know you’ll be doing something enjoyment-related—you just don’t know what yet!
  • You still need to define some things. But you were never going to be spontaneous about studying for that test, were you?

That’s all for now, folks. Contact me about other schedule questions or comments.

so important honestly!

(via sebselfcare)

— 4 days ago with 1475 notes
#ref  #tips  #skills 
sebselfcare:

my recovery book, pages 1 &amp; 2 (inspired by mybpdblog's me book)

awesome!

sebselfcare:

my recovery book, pages 1 & 2 (inspired by mybpdblog's me book)

awesome!

(via mybpdblog)

— 4 days ago with 56 notes

profoundboner:

bpdlevi:

"you’re obsessed with your mental illness"

i know right? it’s almost like it impacts every part of my life

"it’s all in your head"

I know right? it’s almost like it’s a mental illness

(via comemorningslight)

— 5 days ago with 139865 notes

s-ati:

today i was unable to get out of bed and missed class. my depression and anxiety have been physically hurting and taking a toll on me. there’s a constant weight i’m fighting against the past week.

this afternoon i was still in the dark, asleep, when three of my new friends come in and woke me up by laying in bed with me and talking with me. they didn’t make me feel bad about missing class. they didn’t make me feel bad because i am having a hard time. they made me feel loved and cared for and understood and supported, and i’m not exactly used to that.

it honestly made my day and got me out of bed. we made plans to make dinner and hang out after their night classes. they miss me when they don’t see me in over 24 hours. they like my presence and make it known.

i can’t express how much it means to me to have these friends. they may be new, but they’re the best and it’s as if i’ve had them forever. i love them so much.

today could have consisted of me sleeping and laying in bed until it got dark outside, panicking because i missed class, and not eating anything. instead it consisted of love, care, and listening. and that is what pushes me to wake up and live.

— 6 days ago with 15 notes
#live through this  #recovery  #mental illness  #borderline personality disorder  #depression  #anxiety  #insomnia 
Anonymous asked: I'm confused about the gloves. What are they and what do they do?


Answer:

they’re just like latex gloves or whatever and i wear them to stop biting my nails! it’s a compulsive thing and it keeps me from falling asleep cause i can’t stop, so i wear gloves to keep me from doing it!

— 6 days ago
#onychophagia  #nail biting  #Anonymous  #ask 

I did it.
I took my hands out of my mouth,
I got myself a glass of water,
I swallowed the pill,
I put the gloves on,
and I got in bed.
It took all the effort I had,
but I did it.

— 1 week ago with 18 notes
#anxiety  #gad  #generalized anxiety disorder  #nail biting  #onychophagia  #dermatillomania  #compulsive skin picking  #body repetitive disorder  #recovery  #anti anxiety  #medicine  #poem  #depression  #insomnia  #personal 

Notes to remind myself that everything will sooner or later be just fine.


these are so important

Notes to remind myself that everything will sooner or later be just fine.

these are so important

(Source: mostlyfiction, via aprosexiacs)

— 1 week ago with 54089 notes
#affirmations 
"The truth is that mental illness can be deadly, and suicide is the end result of ongoing symptoms. Cancer kills when it spreads so much that the organs can’t function. Mental illness kills when the urge to die becomes louder than the urge to live."
— 1 week ago with 1928 notes